Ten years ago, I woke up and checked my phone for
messages. There was a voicemail that was left several hours prior to my waking
from my sister-in-law. It was brief and to the point. She informed me that my
brother, Ed, had died in his sleep. Ed was preparing to undergo surgery on his knees
but passed away at home throughout the night.
Ten years pass quickly or slowly depending upon one’s
circumstances. Since October 1, 2015, we have added two more grandchildren to
our family. Cindy and I have moved three times. I have had numerous employers
and pastored several congregations before I retired this past July. We have
also lost relatives and friends, and undergone surgeries and procedures.
Personally, remembering those who have died is
important. Removed from this sad event by ten years, the shock is gone, but
sadness remains. Yet, this is overshadowed by thanksgiving that Ed and I spent
six decades enjoying each other’s company, and by joy believing that God
numbered his days as He did in order to call him to Himself.
Ed was a delightful person and had a lot of good
friends. He was a faithful Christian and a diligent worker. Intelligent and
insightful, he had the ability to simplify complex matters and also to
complicate simple ones, as I stated in my eulogy at St. Frances Cabrini
Catholic Church, where his Mass of Christian Burial was held.
Read on because it is important to remember not only
Ed, but also your own deceased family members and friends.
Obituary for James Edward Cwynar
James Edward "Jim" "Ed" Cwynar,
56, of Potter Twp., went home to be with the Lord when he passed away
unexpectedly on Thursday, October 1, 2015. He was born October 19, 1958, in
Sewickley, PA and was the son of the late John Walter and Genevieve (Bednarski)
Cwynar. In addition to his parents, he was also preceded in death by an infant
brother.
Ed was a member of Saint Frances Cabrini Roman
Catholic Church, Center Twp. He was a 1976 graduate of the former Center High
School. In 1980 Ed continued his education at Penn State University and
received Master's degrees from Virginia Tech and Drexel Universities.
He was involved with the Holy Name Society, Polish
National Alliance, Men's Fellowship and Trap Shooting at Christian House
Baptist Chapel, the American Legion and the American Chemical Society. Ed
enjoyed making wine, watching polo, and gardening vegetables and flowers with
his wife. Ed also found much enjoyment in listening to Polka music. Ed was
employed as a chemist from Calgon Carbon, Neville Island and was previously
employed by U.S. Steel Corp. as a lab manager.
He is survived by his loving wife, Ilonha (Tolliver)
Cwynar; three stepchildren, Qianna and Lorenzo Carr, Twyla Frazier, and Tony
Anthony Gates, and his step-grandchildren, Styles Frazier, Mikala Wilson and
Lundyn Rae Carr. Ed is also survived by two brothers and sisters-in-law, John
and Mary Cwynar and Paul and Cindy Cwynar; his father-in-law, Arthur (Peggy)
Williams; a niece, Simone Cwynar, several cousins, friends and his beloved cat,
Merlot.
Eulogy for James Edward Cwynar
God’s grace, peace and mercy be with you. … On behalf
of Ilonha, John and our immediate and extended families, I thank you for
gathering with us this morning for this Mass of Christian Burial for my
brother, Ed.
I have heard 500 eulogies throughout my life and do
not remember one. You may not have heard 500 but may remember as many as I
have. I hope to send you from here with one you can finally remember.
Ed was my younger brother by 19 months. When you have
known a person your entire life and spent nearly every day of the first twenty
years of your life with him, you cannot eulogize him in a few short words. Yet,
if I eulogize Ed with too many words, I risk turning an extraordinary life into
one sounding mundane. So, allow me to share one brief moment in our lives.
Not long after our mother died, Ed and I embarked on a
total house makeover. In 2007, we attended a home show at the Pittsburgh
Convention Center. Afterwards, we decided to try the food and beer at The
Church Brew Works. As we enjoyed our meal and discussed possibilities of our
house makeover, I asked Ed about the beer chart on the wall. He explained the
chart as only a chemist could.
A minute later Ed asked, “Do you know what the second
most complex liquid on the planet is?” … Yeah, like I knew! … “No,” I replied.
Ed answered, “Wine.”
Right now, you are probably thinking what I asked.
“What is the most complex liquid on the planet?” Without hesitation, Ed said,
“Blood.”
A marvelous theological insight! Jesus chose wine, the
second most complex liquid on the planet, to symbolize his blood, and bread,
one of the simplest foods, to symbolize his body.
As I reflect on that conversation from 2007, I realize
Ed shared with me a marvelous theological insight and a snapshot of himself.
Sometimes Ed complicated the simple, but he usually simplified the complex. Ed
simplified the complex.
Our Christian faith is not as complex as earning a Master’s
degree in Chemistry, but as simple as a child opening his welcoming arms to a
loving father. Ed mastered the complexity of chemistry and the simplicity of
Christianity.
In closing, I lay before you this Curly Washburn
challenge: Master one thing in life. You may be an expert at math, music,
medicine or motherhood, law, logistics or languages, theology, chemistry or
farming, but you must master one thing in life: the simplicity of Christianity.
Master the simplicity of Christianity by receiving
God’s Grace, His Word and His Sacraments. Open yourself to God’s love poured
into your heart through the Holy Spirit (Rom 5:5), and you will love the
Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your
mind, and your neighbor as yourself. (Mt 22:37-39)
God gave Ed His Grace, His Word and His Sacraments –
all that he needed not only for an extraordinary life lived, but also for an
eternal life entered. Ed figured out how to live a Christian life long before
he knew how to read periodic tables and beer charts. Ed mastered the simplicity
of Christianity; he simplified the complex because he trusted God’s promise of
eternal life through Christ crucified and he accepted that promise like a
little child. Do that, and you, my brothers and sisters, will master the
simplicity of Christianity.
As you do, may God send his angels to protect you. In
Jesus’ Holy Name, we pray. Amen. … May the peace of God that surpasses all
understanding keep your heart and mind in Christ Jesus. Amen.
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