Thursday, October 10, 2024

Messiah, Man, Money

 


God’s grace, peace and mercy be with you. My sermon title is M & M. My focus is our Gospel (Mark 10:17-22). Let us pray. Heavenly Father, the psalmist wrote, “I rejoiced when they said to me, ‘Let us go to the house of the Lord.’” Now that our feet are within your gates, we rejoice to hear your Word. As we listen, may your Spirit enlighten our minds and move our hearts to love deeply as Jesus loved. This we pray to you, Most Holy Trinity. Amen.

Today is the 64th Anniversary of Bill Mazeroski hitting the only walk-off home run to win a World Series Championship in the bottom of the 9th inning. Now, because my sermon title is M & M, maybe you are wondering if I am going to discuss the famous Yankee home run hitters – Mantle and Maris. Nope. Neither that nor candy. Today, my points are Man and Money, Messiah and Man, Mandates and the Man. First, Man and Money.

If you search for the phrase Man and Money, you will find books with that title. One is about a market economy where liberty and social justice can coexist, and another subtitled A Survey of Monetary Experience. Sadly, both are out of print. Happily, you can listen to The M in Man Is for Money: How to Get It, Use It, and Make It Work for You! There are also advice books on how women can attract men and money.

If you search for the news, you will find stories about two women who drove an 80-year-old dead man to a bank in Ashtabula so he could be seen by its staff and then withdrew money from his account. There’s a guy who poses as “Aaron Rogers” on a dating site and dupes women into giving him personal information which he uses to steal from them. If you are looking for an entertaining movie, there’s Easy Money, The Money Pit and Moneyball.

I mention these to illustrate how society sees money as opposed to how the Bible sees it. There are over 400 verses in the Bible that mention money. In the historical books, we read that you could not charge interest when you loaned money to your brother;[1] and that money was paid to all those who repaired the House of the Lord.[2]

When we get to the Psalms and Proverbs, money is portrayed differently. What is more valuable than money is the Law of God, the Word of God. For example, those who trust in their wealth and boast of their riches should keep in mind that even when wise people die – like the foolish or stupid – they leave their wealth to others.[3] Proverbs teaches “Why should a fool have money in his hand to buy wisdom when he has no sense?”[4] “Take my instruction instead of silver, and knowledge rather than choice gold, for wisdom is better than jewels, and all that you may desire cannot compare with her.”[5] “Riches do not profit in the day of wrath, but righteousness delivers from death.”[6]

This wisdom is influential in the latter part of Isaiah where we read this: “Come, everyone who thirsts, come to the waters; and he who has no money, come, buy and eat! Come, buy wine and milk without money and without price. Why do you spend your money for that which is not bread, and your labor for that which does not satisfy?”[7]

When we get to the New Testament, we get a clear sense of how God sees money through the teachings of Jesus and the Apostles. For example, after Jesus warned his disciples about scribes who devoured widows’ houses, he sat opposite the treasury and watched the people put money into the offering box. Many rich people put in large sums while a poor widow put in a penny. He said to his disciples, “This poor widow put in more than all those who contributed to the offering box.  For they contributed out of their abundance, but she out of her poverty put in everything she had, all she had to live on.” Is this a comment on her generosity or on the burden placed on poor widows by the scribes?[8]

Before he dispatched the Twelve to proclaim the kingdom of God and gave them power and authority over demons and diseases, Jesus said, “Take nothing for your journey, no staff, nor bag, nor bread, nor money; and do not have two tunics.”[9] And clearly the Parable of the Talents is not about investing money, but being invested in the Kingdom of Heaven?[10]

As we move through the rest of the New Testament, we read about Simon the magician who saw the power of the Holy Spirit working through Philip, John and Peter. He begged them to give him the power so that anyone on whom he laid hands would receive the Holy Spirit. Peter replied, “May your silver perish with you, because you thought you could obtain the gift of God with money!”[11]

Instructing his protégé, Timothy, Paul reminded him that we brought nothing into the world, and cannot take anything out of the world; but if we have food and clothing, we will be content. “Those who desire to be rich fall into many senseless and harmful desires that plunge people into ruin and destruction. For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evils. It is through this craving that some have wandered away from the faith and pierced themselves with many pangs.”[12]

In short, in comparison to the Good News of the free Gospel of Salvation and the Kingdom of Heaven, money ain’t all it’s cracked up to be. And so, we move from Man and Money to Messiah and Man, my second point.

By Messiah and Man, I mean our passage. As Jesus journeys towards Jerusalem where he will face the sufferings of his mission, this man runs to him. The man’s zeal, sincerity and respect preface his question about eternal life. The concept of eternal life was a late development in the Old Testament,[13] and it would have been natural for the man to assume that observance of the law was the way to go because the dialogue that followed his original question suggests that since the age of twelve, he had been a faithful Jew. Yet, he must have been dissatisfied with this traditional answer, and sensed that there is more to it.

The key to the passage is verse 21, for it is the only time that Jesus is recorded to have looked at someone with love. This word is at the heart of the early Church’s message. We read in John, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son.”[14] Paul wrote, “Christ loved us and handed himself over for us.”[15]

This gaze of divine love would have captivated the man’s heart and moved him to surrender all his earthly attachments – if he saw it. But sadly, preoccupied with his own thoughts, he did not notice Jesus’ gaze. Jesus put his finger on the source of the man’s dissatisfaction, and despite his fidelity to the law, he lacked the one thing necessary.[16]

Did this man’s money make him independent or did it hinder him from grace freely given? Jesus’ command to sell all of his possessions was not an abstract or hypothetical one. In becoming one with the poor, Jesus asked him to make himself as dependent on God’s grace as the poor, as the children to whom the Kingdom belongs.[17] His follow-up command, “Follow me,” meant unconditionally giving his life to Jesus. It meant his love for God would be lived out when he accepted Jesus’ invitation.

It is only at this point in the passage that we discover the tragic truth. This man was rich but could not bring himself to pay the price for the eternal life that he so passionately desired. He was unwilling to deny himself earthly possessions in order to embrace the self-denial that leads to true wealth. For the Church, it was the first time that Jesus’ invitation to discipleship was directly refused.

As Church, we consider my third point, Mandates and the Man. The word mandate popped up in the news lately. As I pondered the words of a speech interpreted by some as a mandate, I reflected upon Jesus’ directive to the rich man as a requirement to seeking eternal life. Jesus did not ask all disciples to sell their possessions. Initially, Peter kept his house and boat.[18] Joseph of Arimathea, the women of Galilee and the Centurion had access to material possessions and military power.[19] Many of those he healed, Jesus sent back to their families. Paul wrote that the rich are to be generous and ready to share, but he did not require Christians to forsake all.[20] So, why did Jesus not make the same demand on everyone else in every time, culture and society? What other mandates does God give? Before I explore those questions, a little research.

On its website Meriam-Webster asks the question: When should you use mandate? It offered this. A mandate from a leader is a command you can't refuse. But that kind of personal command is rarely the meaning of mandate today; much more common mandates are connected with institutions. The Clean Air Act was a mandate from Congress to clean up air pollution—and since mandate is also a verb, we could say instead that the Clean Air Act mandated new restrictions on air pollution. Elections are often interpreted as mandates from the public for certain kinds of action. But since a politician is not just a symbol of certain policies but also an individual who might happen to have an awfully nice smile, it can be risky to interpret most elections as mandating anything at all.

The word mandate is defined as a command or a judicial or legal order. It is directly from Latin mandatum meaning commission, command or order. Literally, it means to give into one's hand. Its root words are manus (hand) and dare (to give).

Sometimes, we phrase mandates as mission statements. Our synodical mission statement reads, “In grateful response to God’s grace and empowered by the Holy Spirit through Word and Sacraments, the mission of The Lutheran Church—Missouri Synod is vigorously to make known the love of Christ by word and deed within our churches, communities and the world.”[21] That mission statement rests upon our beliefs and teachings.[22]

Going away from our Gospel today, what mandates do we find in the Bible? The first is found in Genesis, and I think it is too late in life for some of us, including me, to obey because God commanded us to “be fruitful and multiply.”[23] There are, however, over 2,000 appearances of the word command throughout the Bible, and the commands of God are not burdensome, but good.[24] We read in Deuteronomy, “I have set before you today life and good, death and evil. If you obey the commandments of the Lord your God that I command you today, by loving the Lord your God, by walking in his ways, and by keeping his commandments and his statutes and his rules, then you shall live and multiply, and the Lord your God will bless you in the land that you are entering to take possession of it.”[25]And in John, Jesus said, “If you keep my commandments, you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full.”[26]

As Christians, we are not to add to or subtract from God’s commandments. We read this in Deuteronomy, “You shall not add to the word that I command you, nor take from it, that you may keep the commandments of the Lord your God that I command you.” In Matthew, Jesus said, “Truly, I say to you, until heaven and earth pass away, not an iota, not a dot, will pass from the Law until all is accomplished.”[27]

Scripture does not address everything in our lives. There is nothing about my choice of morning beverage or afternoon snack, the color of my tractor or the breed of my dogs. In short, Scripture is silent about many things in our daily lives.

Early Lutherans living amidst Catholics and Calvinists in the Holy Roman Empire of the 16th century, cheerfully maintained the old traditions made in the Church for the sake of usefulness and peace. Good order is very fitting in the Church, and is for this reason necessary. Yet, Lutherans also recognized that these traditions were not necessary unto salvation, but because of the need for good order for our brother’s and our sinful flesh’s sake, we accepted some.[28]

The word which addresses these traditions found in the Book of Concord is adiaphora.[29] It is a Greek word meaning matters not regarded as essential to faith, but nevertheless permissible for Christians or allowed in the church. If you search for adiaphora others relate it to many topics that touch our lives, including mandates, but primarily it deals with worship. Because early Lutherans used adiaphora to discuss customs that were not necessary unto salvation, we do not practice exorcism, confirmation by bishops, extreme unction and Corpus Christi processions. They are not necessary for salvation.

As Christians, we enjoy freedom. Luther wrote in Concerning Christian Liberty. “A Christian man is the most free lord of all, and subject to none; a Christian man is the most dutiful servant of all, and subject to every one…. We conclude therefore that a Christian man does not live in himself, but in Christ and in his neighbor, or else is no Christian: in Christ by faith; in his neighbor by love. By faith he is carried upwards above himself to God, and by love he sinks back below himself to his neighbor, still always-abiding in God and His love.”[30]

Without being vilified as a criminal or crackpot because one accepts or does not accept an executive order,[31] we realize that many religious practices – like mandates – are not necessary for salvation and that we can embrace or reject them as long as we live in Christ by faith and in our neighbor by love. A well-formed Christian conscience can lead one to object not only to this mandate,[32] but others as well.

For example, during the Second World War, more than 72,000 men conscientiously objected to armed military service. Most of these served in noncombatant roles or in the Civilian Public Service.[33] United States Army Corporal Desmond Doss served as a combat medic. Twice awarded the Bronze Star for actions in Guam and the Philippines, he further distinguished himself in the Battle of Okinawa by personally saving 75 men, becoming the only conscientious objector to receive the Medal of Honor. His life is depicted in Mel Gibson’s 2016 Oscar-winning film Hacksaw Ridge.

Doss’ refusal to carry a gun caused a lot of trouble among his fellow soldiers. They viewed him with distain and called him a misfit. One soldier warned him, “Doss, as soon as we get into combat, I'll make sure you won't come back alive.” His commanding officers saw him as a liability. They intimidated him, scolded him, assigned him extra tough duties, and declared him mentally unfit for the Army. They attempted to court martial him for refusing a direct order—to carry a gun. They failed to find a way to toss him out, and he refused to leave. He believed his duty was to obey God and serve his country. But it had to be in that order. His unwavering convictions were most important.[34]

A well-formed Christian conscience can lead one to refuse military or civilian orders not necessary for salvation. We can embrace or reject them as long as we live in Christ by faith and in our neighbor by love. In short, I am more concerned about people’s eternal salvation or damnation than whether or not they follow executive orders. Like the rich man in our Gospel, what sometimes gets in my way of following Christ is not money, but being attached to my ideas and opinions.

Yet, unlike that man, I know that the way to eternal life is not to do things my way but His, and His way I am willing to accept. Friends, I pray that whatever it is that gets in your way of following Christ is something you can relinquish, and when you do, may the peace of God that surpasses all understanding, keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Amen.



[1] Leviticus 25:35-37; Deuteronomy 23:19.

[2] 2 Kings 12:10.

[3] Psalm 49.

[4] Proverbs 17:16

[5] Proverbs 8:10.

[6] Proverbs 11:4.

[7] Isaiah 55:1-2.

[8] Mark 12:38-44.

[9] Luke 9:3.

[10] Matthew 25:14-30.

[11] Acts 8:9-25.

[12] 1 Timothy 6:3-10.

[13] Daniel 12:2.

[14] John 3:16.

[15] Ephesians 5:2.

[16] Mary Healy, The Gospel of Mark. Baker Academic, Grand Rapids MI (2008), p. 203.

[17] Mark 10:14.

[18] Mark 1:29; John 21:3.

[19] Mark 15:40ff; Matthew 8:5ff.

[20] 1 Timothy 6:17-19.

[21] https://www.lcms.org/about

[22] You can read the Synod’s doctrines and beliefs here: https://www.lcms.org/about/beliefs/doctrine

[23] Genesis 1:28.

[24] 1 John 5:3.

[25] Deuteronomy 30:15-16.

[26] John 15:10-11.

[27] Matthew 5:18.

[28] See https://lutheranreformation.org/theology/adiaphora-in-the-lutheran-confessions/

[29] See https://bookofconcord.org/formula-of-concord-solid-declaration/article-x/

[30] Martin Luther, “Concerning Christian Liberty,” R. S. Grignon, trans., The Harvard Classics, vol. 36, New York: P. F. Collier & Son, 1910, pp. 345, 372.)

[31] Executive Order on Requiring Coronavirus Disease 2019 Vaccination for Federal Employees, September 9, 2021.

[32] See https://www.concordmonitor.com/My-Turn-A-Conscientious-Objection-to-Mandates-42517913

[33] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conscientious_objection_in_the_United_States#American_Revolutionary_War

[34] https://desmonddoss.com/bio/bio-real.php

Friday, October 4, 2024

BLESSED

 


I know a man who answers, “I am blessed,” every time someone asks him how he is doing. I mention that because in our Psalm (128) today, there are many blessings.

It begins with “Blessed is everyone who fears the Lord.” Perhaps a better translation is “blessed is everyone who is in awe of the Lord.” That’s because God is awesome, and so we respect and revere God. As we grow older, we see how awesome God is that we don’t ever want to lose Him. We can lose God if we no longer walk in His ways.

As adults, God will bless us with enough food from the money we earn by working. And if and when we marry, we pray that God bless us with many children.

When you get to my age, I pray that God blesses you with grandchildren because that’s when the fun really begins. Ask your grandparents, they’ll know what I mean.

No matter what happens to you, if you walk in God’s ways, you are blessed. And when someone asks you how you are, answer, “I am blessed.” With that, let us pray.

Heavenly Father, from whom all fatherhood in heaven and earth is named: Bless all children, and give their fathers and mothers the spirit of wisdom and love, so that the homes in which they grow up may be to them an image of Your Kingdom, and the care of their parents a likeness of Your love. We pray in the Name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Amen.

Thursday, October 3, 2024

Christian Marriage

 


God’s grace, peace and mercy be with you. My sermon title is Keys of Christian Marriage. My focus is our gospel (Mark 10:2-16). Let us pray. Heavenly Father, the psalmist wrote, “I rejoiced when they said to me, ‘Let us go to the house of the Lord.’”  Now that our feet are within your gates, we rejoice to hear your Word. As we listen, may your Spirit enlighten our minds and move our hearts to love deeply as Jesus loved. This we pray to you, Most Holy Trinity. Amen.

Love and marriage, love and marriage

They go together like a horse and carriage

This I tell you, brother

You can't have one without the other

"Love and Marriage" is a song with lyrics by Sammy Cahn and music by Jimmy Van Heusen. It was introduced by Frank Sinatra in the 1955 television production of Thornton Wilder's Our Town. Sinatra recorded two versions of the song for Capitol Records in 1955, and on the 1956 album This Is Sinatra! It became a major hit and was later used as the theme song for the sitcom Married... with Children.

Love is obviously key to marriage, and undoubtedly to Christian Marriage. Before I go into that, let me look at our Gospel. As Jesus travelled throughout Judea, the Pharisees approached him with a test question, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?” Divorce was widely accepted in Jewish society at the time, despite the Biblical assertion that God hates divorce.[1]

There was some controversy among Pharisees over what constituted sufficient grounds for divorce, but here the question was whether divorce was permissible at all. Actually, theirs was not a question, since they already knew the answer, but a trap to expose the unorthodox teachings of Jesus; to which Jesus posed a counter question.

Moses was silent on the question of divorce, and the only mention of it in the Torah is Deuteronomy 24, which granted a man the possibility of writing a bill of divorce. The bill relinquished any legal claims he had on his wife and allowed her to marry someone else. It also afforded her some legal protection from the man who rejected her. The purpose of the bill did not authorize divorce but limited consequences for the woman.

Jesus explained the reason for this was the hardness of their hearts that led men to dissolve their marriages. Jesus chided the Pharisees, and even his own disciples for their hard hearts and stiff necks.[2] He then drew attention to the real commandment found not in the fifth book of the Torah, but the first, where he cited the two creation accounts.

In Genesis 1:27, we read, “God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” In 2:24, we read, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” By linking the two verses, Jesus indicated that the communion of love between a husband and a wife is a sign pointing to God’s ultimate purpose in creating humanity in his image.

Raising the discussion to a new level, by referring to humanity before the fall, Jesus implied that God’s original intention is the true standard for marriage, and that the concession in Deuteronomy no longer applies because humanity is no longer captive to sin, hard-heartedness or family breakdown. Jesus ushered in the new reality – the Kingdom of God – that empowered people to live and experience what God intended from the beginning. This new reality was made possible through the Paschal Mystery – the suffering, death and resurrection of Jesus Christ.

Jesus concluded his teaching with “What God has joined together, no one must separate.” In other words, the bond God created – the union of husband and wife – cannot be dissolved by any human authority.

His disciples must have wondered why Jesus would take away what was allowed in the Law of Moses and set a stricter standard. He did not make life more difficult for them. Rather, he empowered them to live according to God’s original plan through the cross and resurrection. Once they experienced that, they could no longer settle for less.

Inside the house, Jesus expanded his teaching: “Whoever divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery against her.” This is radical in two ways. First, the indissolubility of marriage was as challenging and countercultural then as it is today. Second, it recognized that adultery was a sin against the woman. Note that in Jewish society, adultery was one man’s sin against another man because his wife was considered his property. Here, Jesus acknowledged the total equality of man and woman, and the mutual belonging of husband and wife in marriage. His teaching also challenged Roman citizens to be countercultural where women had a legal right to divorce for it affirmed that they were equally responsible for upholding the permanence of the marriage bond.

So, what does Jesus’ teaching mean for us – all of us whether we are married or not? As a married Christian man, I cannot compartmentalize and choose Jesus’ teachings about different areas of life – marriage, wealth, respect for law, authorities, life, parents, prayer, almsgiving and so on. I cannot separate his teaching from how I live marriage. I cannot choose to observe his teaching on prayer and parents, and ignore his teaching on almsgiving and authority. Jesus’ teaching on any area of life, like his teaching on marriage is like the song, they go together with love. And this love, I find through the cross and resurrection.

I bear the cross as Christ’s disciple and experience the resurrection. Whether you are married, single, divorced, widowed, young and vibrant, aged and frail, rich, poor, male, female, student or business owner, you know that life, marriage, relationships, keeping the law, bearing the cross is difficult because of sin. It is difficult because I am a hard-hearted, stiff-necked person – and yet I know that I can experience life, marriage, relationships, work and whatever in a new way because of the cross and resurrection. It is possible for me because I live not only in God’s creation, but also in God’s kingdom. Living in God’s kingdom and reflecting on his original plan for me and all people means that living life and marriage is not only easy, it’s wonderful.

Cindy and I have been married for 14 wonderful years. Since the beginning, prayer time together has been an essential ingredient in our relationship. We pray before meals, and often share a daily reading and reflection from Portals of Prayer before Supper even if we have company. We pray the psalms in the morning and before retiring for the night. She also reads and offers feedback on my sermons. I lovingly call her The Sermonator.

We have always looked for ways to deepen our relationship, and on the weekend of October 12-14, 2018, we took time away to be with each other on a Marriage Encounter weekend.[3] We did this because we look forward to learn more about each other through effective communication and prayer. Even to this day, we take time for a Daily Dialogue question.

The question might address my fear or anxiety. It may be about my role model as a child or an activity we are anticipating. There are questions about our children or grandchildren. Each day we dialogue on a different question because each day is different, and there is so much more we can know about our spouse and learn to love that person more and be loved more by that person.

In closing, some answers from married people who answered my question, “What are the keys to Christian marriage?”

First, my wife, Cindy, penned these words: 1. God First - By keeping God first in the marriage, you don't put yourself first. Keep God first by praying together as much possible. 2. Spouse second - Put your spouse ahead of yourself. Marriage is not 50%/50%. It is 100%/0%. Give 100% of yourself without expecting anything in return. 3. Respect and love each other always. Final thoughts - It is important to take time together every day to unplug and just communicate with each other. Taking the dog for a walk together is a good time for talking.

Lou and Mary are married nearly 60 years. In no particular order, Lou bullet pointed his keys.

·       Openness to growth as an individual and as a couple

·       Willingness to forgive and to ask for forgiveness

·       Stop keeping score … put aside your ego for the sake of your relationship.

·       Always ask yourself, “Would I rather be right or would I rather be in relationship?”

·       Understand that living in a Christ-centered relationship requires that we take responsibility for our actions and have a deep belief that Christ has a stake in our relationship.

·       Believe that the Holy Spirit is working in our relationship and ask daily for the grace to love, to forgive, for healing and for intimacy in our relationship.

·       Surround yourself with other couples who believe in the sanctity of marriage, who share common values and support each other.

·       Continue to learn about the complexities and dynamics of a love relationship. Never stop learning … never be satisfied.

·       Give back to your faith community and share your “coupleness” and talents with others. Our faith communities and our society need strong role models who believe in marriage. Get involved in a marriage ministry program, marriage prep, couples’ faith sharing circles/bible studies, etc.

·       Make time for each other especially when time demands may pull you in twelve different directions.

Paul and Mary, are in what he describes as a cross-cultural marriage. Of the Keys of Christian Marriage, he wrote:

At the top of the list is the way the apostle Paul tells husbands and wives to treat each other in Ephesians 5:22-33 – wives submitting to and respecting their husbands as to the Lord; and husbands, loving and giving themselves up for their wives as Christ did (even to the point of dying!). There are greater depths there than I am summarizing here, like a husband loving his wife so as to “nourish” her and see her grow (Eph 5:29).

But one key thing that the passage points us to is the idea of doing everything in relationship not to each other primarily, but first in relationship to the Lord. The wife respects the husband, not because he’s always worthy of respect, but because she does it for the Lord. And the husband loves the wife, not because she’s always lovely, but because Christ loved us and the husband is called to reflect that love and extend it on to His wife as the Lord wants us to. Primarily, our marriage relationship is about our relationship with God, and our actions that flow out of that.

…Which gets to the greatest piece of wedding advice, in the form of a prayer, that I ever got, written to us in a card on our wedding day: “May you love God more, so that you love each other better.”

That primary relationship with God, before the relationship with each other, is what a couple will have to lean on in the difficult times. We need to know and experience God’s love and forgiveness through the Lord Jesus, so that, in the words of the sermon preached on our wedding day, “when you realize you’ve married such a sinner,” it will be God’s abundant love and forgiveness that you can rely on to comfort you – and to flow through you to the other person. And when you finally realize there’s no amount of griping or complaining or nagging that you can do to change your spouse, you go to the one who can change a person’s heart, and you ask and trust God to do the work.

Wendell and Kari have been married for 43 years. He summarized his thoughts this way:

1. Be polite and courteous. Open doors, say please and thank you for everything (and mean it), help carry stuff, etc., etc.

2. Walk away when mad. Much better than having to spend weeks cleaning up unkind words.

3. Never utter the “D” word. Once you’ve rung that bell you can’t unring it.

4. Realize that there will be times you simply don’t want to be married to that person. Keep quiet and pray about it. You will be amazed in a week or so when you can’t imagine you ever wanted to be without that person.

5. Make a conscious effort to make “deposits” into the marital bank account. If you consistently take withdrawals without ever making deposits, pretty soon the account is empty.

My friends, these are a few thoughts about marriage. As you have time today, reflect upon them and God’s desire for marriage, and share your loving thoughts and words with one another and others. And when you do, may the peace of God that surpasses all understanding, keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus. Amen.



[1] Malachi 2:16.

[2] Mark 6:52; 8:17.

[3] http://www.wwme.org/